If a Man Answers… Don’t Hang Up

In the movie, If a Man Answers, Sandra Dee devises a plan where her mother calls her house every night then hangs up when her husband answers. This, along with the long stem roses that Sandra sends to herself, results in her husband becoming mad with envy and thus gives his undivided attention to his little wife whom he fears losing.

When people refer to “Cold Calls”, they are usually talking about auto insurance companies or political campaigners. I believe that Cold Calling is a skill set that is required for nearly every area of life.

Picture yourself, you’ve called your crush and now hear her voice on the other end of the line. Suddenly you realize that you have no idea what to say and hang up. As you kick yourself for being such a chicken, your crush is lost as to what just happened and is now blocking your number.

Whether or not you have been in such a position before, we can all relate to the fear of having to call someone.

I have good news for you. Just as the witty Sandra Dee, you too can harness the power of Cold Calls.

Step 1: Cool Your Nerves.

Having a cool head on your shoulders is key when making a call to anyone.

Next time your hands start to sweat, you get the chills, your tongue swells, and you lose all ability to speak, try these tricks to calm your nerves.

  • Take a deep breath for 6 seconds, hold it for 2, then let it out for 7.
  • Power pose. To do this, reach your arms out to your side and lean your head back.
  • Chew gum. But please, not too loud.

 

Beyond these physical actions, there are a few mental techniques you can use as well.

  • Remember that you are equal to the person you are calling. This is simply a conversation between two human beings.
  • Believe in what your product and allow your passion to lead.
  • Don’t make this a bigger deal than it is.

 

Step 2. The Actual Call

There are two main points you need to cover in your Cold Call. First, who you are, and second, why they should care.

The best way to go about introducing yourself is by making it clear that you are not a stranger. This can be accomplished by stating that you both have a mutual acquaintance, you’ve gone to the same event, share the same interest, or even that you have met briefly in person.

Secondly, convince them that you have something worth listening to. This should take less than 30 seconds.

  • What exactly is your product, service, or concept that you are promoting?
  • Explain how you can solve a problem or pain in their life.
  • Finally, ask them what they think and listen.

Let’s say that you were asking your crush out. If you were to use these steps it would go something like this –

“Hey Sally, this is James. You know the guy who keeps looking at you during math class. Ya, that’s me. I heard you talking about that movie and thought I might help you out by buying you a ticket, maybe some popcorn, and who knows, I could even provide a shoulder for you to cry on when it gets to the sad parts. What do you think?”

Bingo

 

There you have it. The next time you make a Cold Call, If a Man Answers….. you won’t have to hang up.

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A huge shout out to Joshua D. Fischer, VP of Acquisitions at Go Realty/Birgo Capital, a Pittsburgh based Private Equity Real Estate fund.

And to Praxis for hosting Joshua D. Fisher for their workshop on the Art of Sales and Cold Calls. If you are a creative, independent thinker who wants to get a jump start on their career without hopping through the hoops and political agendas of a dying degree, I strongly recommend checking them out.

The Reason I Chose Not To Go To College

Get good grades, go to college, and then you’ll have the perfect life.

This is the message that I’ve heard countless times again. Earning a degree seems to be the magic potion for success. Unfortunately though, this is not the case. At the end of the day, one’s work ethic, ability to produce value, and life experience will far out weigh  a piece of paper.

It is for this reason that I have chosen not to attend college. Before you throw me out as a lost cause, allow me to explain What I am doing instead, How I am doing it, and most importantly, Why.

What

I am apart of a movement that is revolutionizing higher education and the pursuit of a career. The worth of a degree is becoming less valuable yet more expensive and time-consuming to obtain. College is not for everyone, and I’m one of those people that it’s not for. I am a Praxis student leading the way for future change. This is What I DO.

How

Praxis is a 12-month business program during which time each student completes a six-month online boot camp along with a following six-month apprenticeship through an exciting startup company. The main agenda of the boot camp is to create a portfolio to showcase a candidate’s skills and abilities to potential employers. The apprenticeship is focused on taking these skills and applying them to real-world experience.

Through this program, I have the ability to determine my own path instead of trusting it in the hands of a university. At the end of the day, my outcome depends entirely on whether I accomplished what was required and expected of me. I can place blame on no one besides the man in the mirror, yet this also means that the person creating that reflection is me and not a system or society.

“I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.” – Dr. Ivan Joseph

Praxis is simply the structure of responsibility by which I obtain freedom. This is How I do what I do.

Why

I believe in striving for the kind of life that is capable of changing the world. This is a life measured not by a bank account summary or the opinions of others. It’s a life measured by the personal accomplishments I have achieved. It’s a life of overcoming the resistance that stands between each master and their trade. It’s a life of resting your head on the pillow each night satisfied with how you spent your hours that day.

I believe that each person has a purpose and place in the world that they are meant to impact. Life is a gift you only get once. I intend to live mine completely invested and involved, as opposed to checking my brain in at the door so that the trends and ideas of the day can live my life for me.

It is this purpose that I aim for instead of am A on a test or exam. Such a life is not given to anyone but is one that must be fought for and earned. For myself, this journey does not lead through a college compose but instead out in the real world, gaining life experience, skills, and a reputation of someone who can deliver.

 

College is not a bad thing or a pour choice to make, for some people. At the end of the day though, one’s work ethic, ability to produce value, and life experience will far out weigh a piece of paper, and that is why I have chosen not to go to college.

 

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The Reason I Am Passionate About Nuts, Bolts, and Hay

The Reason I Chose To Work With Children Everyday

The Reason I Am Passionate About Nuts, Bolts, and Hay

You may think I’m crazy but, I am passionate about nuts, bolts, and hay. To explain the reasoning behind this passion allow me to share with you What I do, How I do it, and most importantly Why I it.

What

I am a team member of one of the fastest-growing businesses in the US, that, fun fact, is actually Canadian owned and operated. This retail chain offers products for home improvement, lawn, and gardening maintenance, and specializes in agriculture livestock, equine and pert care. I am a team member of Tractor Supply and am proud to serve my community by serving our customers.

How

The way by which I offer my services to these customers is by fulfilling my duties to the very best of my abilities. This is not simply a job that I clock in and out of but is a part of my daily efforts to impact my community, which is something I do with or without my red vest on. My efforts toward creating a friendly, welcoming atmosphere, where people can find not only the supplies but also the help they need, is what impacts my community, and ultimately my state and country.

Besides assisting customers with finding specific products within our store, I have also made it my personal challenge to greet each customer upon arrival offering any help that they may need the moment they arrive. This accomplishes three things.

1. It saves the customer time which can be better used working on their projects or spending time with their family and loved ones. 2. It allows me to connect with these members of my town to create relationships that go beyond company and customer. 3. It lets the customer know that this is a place that they can come to in the future for not only their daily needs and tools but also for friendly service and a welcoming farming family.

Another way that I have gone the extra country mile is by writing a personal note on the back of each customer’s flyer.

I noticed that most of our customer information papers, offering adds, store sales info, and cash winning opportunities, were being thrown away or left in the carts without so much as a single glance. This meant that our customers were going uneducated about our annual opportunists to save and invest. To solve this problem I put together a quick, 15-sec speech concerning the information in our flyer and the chance to win cold cash while pointing out exactly where they could read more at their convenience. Along with this, I also wrote a personal note on the inside page, wishing them a great day with my name attached. This note allows our store to be front and center in their minds even after they walk out our doors, and also supplies a name to attach to a face the next time they come in.

To prove that these actions are effective, one week after applying them to my daily work interactions, I received the Country Mile award for my outstanding customer service and satisfaction.

Why

I believe in hard work, discovering new ways to impacts one’s work, community, and the lives of others. Being attentive as to what needs to be done and knowing how to improve how things are run is what makes a great team member, and what allows me to achieve my goals.

This store is much more than a building with products and services. It is a place for creating projects, hobbies, and livelihoods. By being apart of this industry I can be a problem solver. And, for that customer who walks into a warm greeting, friendly assistance, and a “have a great day” farewell note, I even get to be a life-changer, if only in my community.

Yet what is our country made of if not communities? And what are communities made of if not their people? Therefore, by serving the people of my community, I truly am a world changer.

 

You may think I’m crazy but, now you know why I am passionate about nuts, bolts, and hay.

 

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The Reason I Chose Not To Go To College 

The Reason I Chose To Work With Children Everyday

The Reason I Chose To Work With Children Everyday

Today I put on six band-aids, solved twelve arguments over a toy, and wiped four very runny noses. What can I say, kids are messy.

Today I also was given seven hugs, two kisses, and a drawing. What can I say, I love these kids.

You may wonder why a person would choose to work with children everyday of the week, and I can understand your confusion. For me though, this is the ages when I have the greatest impact. Allow me to explain by sharing with you What I do, How I do it, and most importantly, Why I do it.

What

I am a USA certified Gymnastics coach who teaches children how to perform skills with the personal desire of building self-confidence and will power that can change the lives of these children, and eventually the world.

As a gymnastic coach, I get to do what I love. The title and means by which I reach these children are of far less significant than the actual outcome. I just happen to be blessed with the opportunity to use a beautiful and challenging sport to inspire and impact the lives of children. Touching the lives of others through gymnastics is What I do.

How

The means by which I bring about these transformations and make this impact is through art, specifically the physical movement of gymnastics.

By teaching a child how to perform a cartwheel for the first time, a back-flip on the trampoline, or a flip flop, I can give them the opportunity to achieve a simple win that will lead to a ripple effect of achievements.

Those who believe that a child with down syndrome can never learn how to do a cartwheel, front flip, or compete at a meet have not met some of my most beloved students. The angels light up my world with their smiles and joy.

Each child is one of a kind and priceless. All they require to reach their full potential is encouragement and guidance from those who care. Gymnastics is simply How I do what I do.

Why

I love working with children. More specifically though, I love working with children in a way that allows them to build confidence in who they are and their ability to overcome any area of life.

I have witnessed the transformation of a child in that one moment when the skill they thought was impossible suddenly becomes their own reality. A smile covers their faces from ear to ear and their eyes light up with an uncontainable excitement. It is in these moments that I get to share in their excitement, offering a high five, a pat on the back, hug or even a happy dance. These are the moments that become engraved in their minds and push them toward new unattainable goals, knowing that they can change the world.

One of the most rewarding place for me to see these outcomes has been in my work with the foster-care system. Each week I have the opportunity to work with a group of girls within the local foster-care home. These girls have each come from abusive backgrounds where they have been betrayed and used, often by those who were closest to them. As a result, they come to us with no desire to open up and trust as they struggle inwardly with an extreme lack of self-worth.

The joy of  seeing the transformation in these girls when they reach that moment of accomplishment is what my job is all about. At that moment, the past has no power over them. At that moment they discover pride in who they are and the confidence to reach for that next goal.

I truly believe that the way a person overcomes the challenges in this life is by first finding a scene of pride and accomplishment within themselves. This self-confidence is what drives a person to reach for the impossible, achieve what others said could never be done, and put the needs of others before their own. This is what it takes to be a world-changer and this is Why I do what I do.

 

 

I am a USA certified Gymnastics coach who teaches children how to perform skills with the personal desire of building self-confidence and will power that can change the lives of these children, and eventually the world.

 

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Grace

Meaning of Grace

So often we are taught that grace is God showing His love to us even when we are sinners. His hug of acceptance you could say. And though this is true, it is an insufficient view of the power of Manifold Grace.

Manifold means that there are many folds. Like a cloth that is folded over and over in creases, so grace has many layers to its significance.

Yes, grace is the unmerited favor of God, but it goes beyond simply favor.

Picture it like this; you are stuck in your mud and muck of sin, unable to pull yourself out. God comes with His grace and chooses to love you even when you are in your mud and muck. However, He does not leave you there. He instead raps His arms around you in that hug of unearned love and pulls you out of your sin, placing you on solid ground. He then takes your filthy clothes and gives you a garment of pure white righteousness. Now transformed from your old self, God walks with you along the path you call life and guides you away from pits of mud and muck. This Is grace!

Grace is the power of God that works in us making us into His workmanship. Grace is given by God, yet it is Jesus who provides the mean by which we enter into Grace (salvation), while the Holy Spirit is the One who actually brings this grace into our lives.

Personal Application

We have this power of grace given to us by the Holy Spirit as we stand in Christ alone. This grace is an attribute of God and is therefore apart of God, holding the power of God. For this reason, we ought to live in this grace with the confidence that nothing can keep us from being transformed by its work. If God is grace and nothing can stand against God then nothing can stand against His power of grace in our lives.

How dare I question whether I can become all God promises I am. How dare I put more faith in my inability to withstand the temptations of sin, then in the grace of God to overcome these areas in my life. How dare I use grace as an excuse to live a lesser life, twisting it into meaning that God will forgive me as I live in the flesh.

Grace is the power to overcome sin not the excuse the remain in it.

Kissing the “I can’t Kiss” list Goodbye

If you’re familiar with popular Christian literature, especially on the topic of relationships between the opposite genders then I’m sure you have an idea of where this blog is going by the title above. For those who are not affected by the recent blow to the Purity movement, allow me to enlighten you.

In 1997 a book by the title of “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” hit the Christian book market. In this book the author, Joshua Harris discusses his opinions on how one should handle their interactions within relationships, between both males, females and God. Many strong Christian families grabbed a hold of this book and ran with it hoping that it would save their children the heartache and pain that often comes with poor choices in this area. As a result, the Purity moment was created by which my generation was strongly affected.

Recently Joshua Harris has publicly renounced his teachings and his faith as a whole. Leaving his family, faith, and career, Joshua has turned his back on all that he once held as absolute truth. Such a drastic transformation from such a strong leader has caused many in the Purity movement, and Christianity as a whole to question what they believe in.

This questioning is one that I have experienced, however, it came about many years before Joshua revoked his beliefs.

Growing up as the pastor’s oldest daughter, the pressure to be perfect was a heavy load that I was constantly aware of. This pressure was not placed on me by my parents but instead by the rest of our congregation and society as a whole. As a PK (pastor’s kid) I was expected to know the perfect prayers, the right bible verses and the correct answer to every situation in life. The problem was that this just wasn’t true.

I was just a normal teenager trying to figure out life and myself. In those moments when I didn’t know the right answers or the perfect biblical solution, or worst when I found myself doing things I knew I shouldn’t, it caused me to question everything I believed.

You see, my beliefs were based on my ability to perform. I had the perfect to-do-list of everything a “good Christian” should do. Yet even with this list, I could never reach that expectation of perfection, which meant that there was either something wrong with me or God.

I remember laying on my bathroom floor sobbing my eyes out as once again I questioned my faith, my worth and my God. We all have our own “experiences” in life, and this was mine. As I lay on that tile floor I heard a voice as clear as if it were in the room with me, “You’re not the one who comes to me. I came for you.”

It was at this moment that I began to understand how Christianity truly works. We can never be “good enough” to reach God. He is the one who reaches out to us. God wanted me just the way I was. There was no list of thou shalt and thou shalt not that he was hanging over my head. Once I understood this I was able to have a relationship with my Lord instead of constantly trying to please him and others. It was then that I could open up my heart and allow Him to work in and through me. It was then that I learned that the power to resist that which I knew was wrong was not of my strength but was something that he enabled me to do.

To tie this back to Joshua Harris; Kissing Dating Goodbye is not an evil wicked book. However, when people take it and turn it into a to-do-list thinking that in a sense it can save them, the results are disappointment, heartbreak, and anger.

I have personally seen this in the lives of many of my friends. Girls who were so scared to speak to a guy in fear that they might develop feelings for them leads to thoughts such as “I’m not pretty enough for him to notice me” and “I’ll never be good enough”. Boys struggling with their natural drives and thoughts constantly beat themselves down for not being able to block out these feelings.

Here’s the deal. Love is a choice, not a to-do-list. If you came home to your wife, kissed her, told her you loved her and handed her flowers, then processed to pull out your checklist and check each item off, your wife would feel anything but loved. Doing something because you have to is not love. Kissing Dating Goodbye hurt so many people because it was a list and not a choice.

The Bible says that a relationship between a man and woman is the closet picture on earth of the relationship between Christ and his church. It would stand to reason therefore that a romantic relationship should be molded after how Christ loves the church. This is a love with no strings attached, no unattainable expectations, and no to-do-list. These are all the things of the Old Testament law which is exactly what Jesus came to replace.

Regardless of your opinion on dating vs. courting, the method has nothing to do with the result. There have been many young adults who lost their purity while wearing purity rings and successful marriages that came from couples who kissed before their wedding day. The list is of no use if it’s not a choice. Love is not love if there is not a choice.

The Magic of Sales

As a child, our family entertained large numbers of guests regularly. As a result, each of us children had to learn a skill that we could present at a moment’s notice. Music, skits, and speeches were among many of the choices, but the most popular by far was magic.

Recently I have been going through an in-depth study of the role of Sales as I intend to pursue a career in this area. During this study, I have have had the opportunity to interview sales experts, one of which happens to be a fan of magic as well. Adam Thibeault is an experienced and successful Sales Representative at Combined Insurance. Here is a summary of our interview.

What made you choose to pursue this role?

“I’m driven by ‘I can do this’ as opposed to a monthly pay-check.” 

According to Adam “In Sales, if you have the confidence to go after your goals, then one thing that no one can take from you is commissions” 

Starting in college, Adam discovered that he could gain more from listening to podcasts and educating himself then he was gaining in the classroom. This led him to Praxis where he completed their 12-month course gaining real-world experience and training. From here Adam set his sights high, found a company he wanted to work for and through sweat, blood, and tears, landed himself a job as a Sales Rep.

This go-get-it attitude and perseverance along with being able to determine your outcome and results are what led Adam to Sales, and my siblings and me to magic. To those who watch from the audience of life, this role may appear to be an allusion, confusing, and perhaps a bit intimidating. For the magician though, this preference is anything but. It is a well planned out strategy in which the performer has full control over the outcome.

What skills and training are required for this role?

“Perseverance is the number one difference between the people who are successful and the people who will be driven nuts.”

In a job that often results in more no’s than yes’s, the ability to keep going even after one has been kicked in the teeth is a must.

Adam goes about looking at his progress by basing it on personal outcome as apposed to capital outcome.

“Put the judgment of whether you are doing well or not on ‘did I make as many calls, sales presentations, or book as many appointments as I could?’ That is the metric you want to go for, rather than getting the sale.”

Gaining a customer’s trust, presenting and proving the reliability of your product, and dealing with the slammed doors in your face, requires one to stay focused and push forward toward the end goal regardless of what happens along the way.  

Often when performing our little magic show, a hiccup would occur resulting in impromptu maneuvering and adjustments on my sibling’s part. You should have been there the first time my sister tried to saw my brother in half. Sometimes we had to throw the trick out the window and make up a completely new one on the spot. Regardless though, we had to deliver a stunning performance. As long as the audience cheered, the presentation was a success.   

What is the greatest challenge?

“Getting up in the morning.”

Adam says that once he gets to his car he can then get anywhere he needs to throughout the day. Getting to the car though is the struggle.

As in every area of life, the big key activities only come about as a result of the little steps that came before. Any morning routine involves an alarm and the will power to get out of bed. Getting ready for the day involves boring tasks such as getting dressed, brushing your teeth and eating your Cheerios. In the same way, preparing the presentation, making the calls, and scheduling the appointments has to come before the exciting pitch can be made.

“Getting up in the Morning.” could be replaced with“Getting the appointment.”

My siblings and I loved performing in front of our family and friends, but besides the baby of the family who could rely on her cuteness to get her an appose, us older kids had to work on our acts before we performed them. A 3-minute trick would take three days of practice, but the stunned looks on everyone’s face was worth it in the end.

What does your day to day tasks look like?

“The day starts with the night before”

Each night Adam schedules out the following day. From appointments and meetings to travel time and smaller in-between tasks. This ensures that each morning when he wakes up to charge the day, he knows exactly what needs to be done first and every step after that.

As we said above, there is quite a bit of flexibility that goes into this job and maneuvering is a daily task. However, this adjusting is far easier to deal with when the rest of your day is planned out and accessible. 

One thing about presentations, whether they be on magic or any other topic, is that a well planned out order is necessary. Without knowing which trick need to go next, my siblings and I would have been pulling rabbits out of our hats, when we were supposed to be turning flowers into doves. Order plus perseverance equals productivity.

What is the significance of Sales as a whole?

Personally –

As an insurance salesman, Adam says that he has, “literally seen people’s lives be saved because of the money our coverage provided them.”

“I wouldn’t do anything else in the world. If I could just help people, which I can and will, I’d want to do it.”

Regardless of what you are selling, a belief in that product and its impacts on humanity is what will push you to do whatever it takes to get that product into the hands of the customers who need it. You must believe in your product enough that you would invest in it yourself. You are investing in that product, each day that you give your time and effort to your company.

As a company and sales as a whole-

“Being apart of a team to reach a common goal is so improvident. Even if you’re the janitor (which is how I started), you are helping the team as a whole reach their goal of helping others.”  

Each member of a team is vitally importation no matter what their title may be. You are only as strong as your weakest link and no person can be replaced. That janitor who cleans the office allows the members on each team to accomplish their tasks by having everything they need to improve the company as a whole. If you believe in the mission of your company then you must also believe in each member of your team, because without them, that mission will never be reached. 

Working as a family to entertain our guests was an undertaking no single Walter could take on by themselves. There are no spotlights with a team because no one person can get where they’re at without the company as a whole.

What hard skills are necessary for this role?

“Organization and Follow-through” 

As we discussed above, organization is a key skill in every area of sales. However, organization is not only necessary for the before stages but also the after. Being able to look at a situation and figure out what went wrong, determine how to solve it, and then put these new actions into play, will be the difference between improvement and remaining in the same old rut. 

Talking to people is a large part of sales, but gaining the trust of a customer is a whole different can of worms. It is your job as a salesman to convince your customers that the product is reliable and worth their investment. This requires follow through. Saying something is one thing, performing it is another. Walking your talk and proving your claims is what sales are all about. After all, you are apart of that product. When that person thinks of the product you sold them they will also think of you because you are connected in their minds. 

When my siblings and I would talk to people who had been to our house in the past they would often bring up parts of our presentation and the things they enjoyed. This information would let us know which acts were more pleasing and would help us improve the show as a whole. In the end, though, our ability to jump up and put on a show spur of the moment was what impressed our audience the most. We didn’t just tell them about our hobbies, we showed them.

What does it take to succeed in this role?

“Gritting your teeth, smiling, going on with a positive mental attitude, and doing 10% more than you’re asked to. This is the only thing I’d quantify as my success.”  

Let’s be honest, life is often pretty hard and some days just get you down. On such occasions, one must determine who is in charge of their life. Their circumstances or themselves.

By moving past a pour experience with a genuine smile and positive attitude, one can use these negative events to improve themselves. Either you determine your circumstances or your circumstances will determine you.  

With this mindset comes the ability to rise above and achieve more than others thought you possibly could. Giving all you’ve got in every situation is what will put you ahead in life. Going above a beyond, accomplishing in 10%, 20% more than was expected of you will not only prove to the world what you are capable of but will also prove it to yourself. 

Each time you reach the goals you are training yourself to be an over-comer and reach higher the next time.

The first time I performed in front of an audience, I was far from an Oscar nominee. I remember times when I was embraced to no end and never wanted to try anything new ever again. At these times my parents would lovingly push me back on the stage and tell me to try again. It was for these exact moments that my parents made us perform. These obstacles would determine what kind of person we would grow up to be. Either an over-comer or a person who accepted defeat.

If you could give one piece of advice to a young person considering this role, what would it be?

“Put yourself out there”

The only thing to fear is fear itself. If you allow the fear of what others will think or what might just happen keep you from trying new things, then you’ll never achieve anything in life.

Adam went to New York with $800, a car full of clothes, and a few copies of his resume. His greatest fears were not being able to provide for himself, being alone, and finding himself stuck in a mental rut of never improving. By making this move to NY, Adam faced each of these obstacles, using them to push himself above and beyond.  

My parents created safe atmospheres for us kids where we could put out selves out there with people who cared and loved us. As we’ve grown up, that safe place has diapered but the ability to try new things, take the risk, and share with the world has only grown. The crazy things that you do in life are what define who you are, who you will be, and give you the confidence to take on the next new fear.

 

Conclusion

Whether you are selling insurance or preforming a card trick, all of life is about sales. When applying for a job, going on a date, or introducing yourself to a stranger, you are selling yourself. When you discuss with a friend, convenience your aunt to make your favorite dessert or ask your boss for a raise, you are selling your opinions. No matter what you are selling in life, the skills of perseverance, organization, and a drive to overcome fears and reach new heights will be the determining factor of you closing the deal. 

A Cowboy Church?

Growing up as a Cowboy Pastor’s kid (a C.P.K.), I believe that I can adequately give an accurate description of what a cowboy church is.

According to Wikipedia, a Cowboy church is defined as a “local Christian church within the cowboy culture that is distinctively Western heritage in character. A typical cowboy church may meet in a rural setting in a barn, metal building, arena, sale barn, or old western building, have its own rodeo arena, and a country gospel band.”

That’s a decent answer but still leaves quite a few questions, which I will now provide the answers for.

What a Cowboy Church is Not

When most people think of a church they picture a white steeple building with pews and carpeting. These churches are filled with well-dressed members, the men often in suits and the women in dresses. The pastor preaches from a pulpit and the choir leads the congregation in their most beloved hymns. Each week there are such activities as a youth group, Bible studies, and even bingo night.

As for the cowboy church my dad pastors, we look a bit different than your typical church.

Instead of a white steeple church, we meet in a barn. After all, it was good enough for Jesus.

We also have no dress code. Often our members are coming in from working and caring for their livestock. This means dirty jeans, muddy boots, and of course cowboy hats. This dress attire is not restricted to members only. The pastor is never seen without his cowboy hat on and as his child, I can tell you that I’ve only seen him in a suit maybe three times in my life.

Speaking of the pastor, his weekly messages aren’t what you’d be used to at a traditional service. If you’re not familiar with the fundamentals of Rodeo then you most likely won’t understand half the analogies. Agriculture examples are often used including calving, breeding, castration and other such delightful everyday task of a rancher’s life.

The music is also countryfied with our two-stepping version of I’ll Fly Away and Amazing Grace. Most of the songs we play on a Sunday morning are also the same ones we play at our annual barn dances. Many a George Strait and Willie Nelson songs have been tweaked to share the gospel message via acoustic guitar and a bit of twang.

As for our weekly events, youth group is replaced by open arena nights and ropings where most of our attendees are students of the local high school and college rodeo teams. Bible studies take place at our many rodeo events, as the messages are shared by the pastor on horseback. And for our upper aged members, a combination of barn dances and mini ropings are a way of ensuring that all ages have a blast. If you don’t know what mini roping is, you’re missing out.

Along with these western events, we also put on a yearly Rodeo Bible Camp where kids ages 8-18 come to be taught by some of the world’s best rodeo cowboys and cowgirls while also learning about the word of God and His love.

What a Cowboy Church Is

With this understating as to what a Cowboy church looks like and how it functions you might now be interested in stopping by and checking out one in your area.

Now hold your horse. Before you buy yourself a cowboy hat and a pair of boots I’d like to inform you of one last thing. The Cowboy Code of Cowboy Churches.

The entire reason cowboy churches exist is for two main reasons.

#1. To Share the Word of God with those who otherwise would never step foot into a church.

Stinky odors, conversation topics, and not to mention the lifestyle choices that often find their way into these cowboy’s lives, keep most them from ever stepping into a church building in fear that the ceiling will fall in on them. These are the people we at cowboy churches are out to reach.

My dad has said many times before that when you walk out into our parking lot you should see beer cans in the back of pickup truck. Otherwise, we’re not doing our job.

With this said, we don’t condone pour lifestyles, but just as our Lord and Savior came to seek and save the lost, we make it our mission to meet these people exactly where they are and love them with all our hearts. We don’t expect people to become perfect to walk in our doors. We welcome them as they are and allow the Holy Spirit to do the work of saving.

For this reason, we have all kinds of people sitting in our seats any given Sunday. Cowboys passing through from the rodeo the night before, ranchers that have never opened the bible let alone know what’s in it, truck drivers who needed a place to turn around, even bikers. Yes, bikers.

This atmosphere is focused on the agricultural lifestyle but the down to earth openness attracts people from all walks of life.

#2 To Preserve and teach the character traits and lifestyle of agriculture.

This is not just a show. This is our way of life.

Our pastor doesn’t just put on an act for Sunday service, he makes his living by working cattle and training horse. This isn’t a John Wayne twist for entertainment purposes. Our members are proud to live the lives they have chosen. Ones that require them to get up at the break of dawn to care for an animal or tend a field. This is a hard life that requires hard people with soft hearts.

It is this life that we wish to pass on to the next generation to ensure that we don’t disappear in history along with the beliefs that we hold so dear.

Conclusion

So before you go out and buy yourself a cowboy hat and pair of boots, try just stopping in, the way that you are. Cowboy Church isn’t for cowboys, it’s for all who will hear. Our desire is simply to be that voice that cries out to all who will hear, sharing with them the coming of our Lord. (Matthew 11:15)

Playing to Win vs. Winning to Play

“It doesn’t matter if you win, as long as you had fun.”

This is a statement that I’ve heard time and time again. Usually given to a young child weeping over their loss, this saying is meant to soothe the blow of defeat.

I believe that failure is an experience everyone should endure multiple times throughout their life. However, the benefit of learning from losses is a topic for another blog. The subject I wish to discuss is that of a winners mindset.

Recently I participated in a western sorting event at my local Cowboy Church. At this event, there were all levels of cowboys. From big-time sorters, ranch hands, even first-time competitors and kids.

In high school and growing up on a ranch, I’ve had my fair share of sorting experience. However, since my ACL surgery last year I’ve only ridden a horse a handful of times. To be honest, I hadn’t even planned on competing, yet I did.

Signing up last minute I ended up with the last slot. As I watched everyone go before me I saw the pros flash in and out of the pen, more often than not spooking the cattle instead of sorting them. The ranch hands were too concerned about looking the part and upholding their reputations to slow down and read the livestock. And the kids were so nervous with mom and dad coaching them from the side panels that they couldn’t control their horse.

When it got to my turn, I was just happy to be on a horse again. Once in the pen, my experience came back to me like riding a bike and by the time the flag dropped for my time I had sorted off 6 steers, winning the event and scoring higher than any competitor that day.

What were the differences between me and the pros, ranch hands, and kids?

I was winning to play whereas they were playing to win.

Sure I wanted to win, but I honestly was there to have fun. My fellow competitors were there to win, regardless of whether they had fun. As a result, I was able to go into the ring calm, cool and collected because my eye was on the event instead of the trophy.

In every area of life, one must be able to keep their head in the game without being distracted by the end prize. Of course, we should aim high. Of course, we want to reach the top. But if you’re not looking at the steps that you’re climbing because you’re too focused on what’s up ahead, you’ll end up losing balance and falling off the edge.

Your skills and experience are what get you to the trophy, so focus on that and let the prize come to you.

“It doesn’t matter if you win, as long as you have fun”…because if you forget to enjoy the game you’ll never actually win anyways.

Allow me to Share

What could Payton Grace Walter possibility have to share? There are no PhDs in front of my name. No significant trophies on my wall. Not even a dramatic life story to tell. After all, doesn’t someone have to be an expert in an area before they’re qualified to share with the world?
My personal opinion is that if you wait till you know everything about a topic, you’ll never actually share it. There will always be more to learn and there will always be people who know more than you.
No one person can know everything and therefore there will always be topics to learn. Fortunately, though, that means that there will always be other people learning as well.
No matter how much you may know about any given area, there is someone, somewhere who knows less than you and can benefit from what you can share.
This is how humans interact. We are all teachers in our sense. It is the job of each human being to lend a hand to our fellow man by sharing what life has offered to us.
This is the mindset of driving my decision to take on a 30-day blog challenge. Throughout Oct I will be writing and publishing a blog post each day, no matter what. For the next 30 days, I will have to share information that I have gathered from all areas of life.
•Warning•
The first blogs I published will most likely be pretty rough. This is a learning experience for me and one that may be a bit daunting at times.
This a huge step for me to put myself at the mercies of those who click on this post. However, I want to improve my ability to communicate effectively to others and am therefore willing to look like a fool at times. My only request is that you lend me that helping hand of knowledge by offering feedback from time to time. I may not be great now, but I know someday I will be.
With that said, I do believe that the content I have to share is worth your time. I may not have a Ph.D., trophies or a dramatic life story, but I’m willing to put myself out in front of the world.
I promise that if you choose to accompany me on this journey, I will deliver compelling, informative, and even humorous content each day. Even if you only gain one ounce of knowledge, this challenge will have been not only worth your time but also mine.
I have a hunger to learn, and since you’ve read this far, I can assume to have that same hunger. Together we can learn from each other.
So here’s a thank you in advance, for allowing me to share.